'Must I Tell My Partner Everything?'
Jonathan Bennet, a relationship and dating expert at Double Trust Dating once said, "Relationships don’t have to be a complete open book, there are some things that you might want to keep private because you find them embarrassing or regretful. Also, some things you can keep private because your partner just wouldn’t want to know!"
And I back this up and say, it's not because you are being secretive but because it is just safer that way. It saves you so many headaches you might not forsee at the time.
From experience, when you meet someone new, they want to know everything and anything about you with nothing left and if you have been head over heels in love with someone before, you will agree with me that just as they are ready to know, you are also ready to talk as e dey hot.
Communication is always at the maximum at the beginning yet it is essential to know when to talk, what to say and when to keep shut.
Discussing your past with your partner be it as regards relationship, cheating habit, sex talk or anything is actually important but it is more advisable to say only things you know you won't regret saying later on.
There was a time I actually broke up and I didn't handle it well then I went ahead to cheat on the guy I ended up with, it was real bad, embarrassing but needed because everything that happens has a reason and there is always a lesson to learn.
Anyway, the whole drama ended and I met someone else, while enjoying the euphoria of the new beginning, we had to tell each other stuffs which is quote me anywhere importan but it is really none of my partner's business how many sexual partners I have had or how many times I have had sex or who was my best.
I told him everything not leaving anything out and sometimes during the relationship duration, I sometimes felt he acted this way or that way because of one thing or the other that I told him I have done or experienced.
In all, just like Jon, I feel telling your partner all about your past sometimes come with repercussions. You should only say what makes you comfortable.
If you want to go all out, beautiful!
If you want to hold back a little, wonderful.
Olufunlola
And I back this up and say, it's not because you are being secretive but because it is just safer that way. It saves you so many headaches you might not forsee at the time.
From experience, when you meet someone new, they want to know everything and anything about you with nothing left and if you have been head over heels in love with someone before, you will agree with me that just as they are ready to know, you are also ready to talk as e dey hot.
Communication is always at the maximum at the beginning yet it is essential to know when to talk, what to say and when to keep shut.
Discussing your past with your partner be it as regards relationship, cheating habit, sex talk or anything is actually important but it is more advisable to say only things you know you won't regret saying later on.
There was a time I actually broke up and I didn't handle it well then I went ahead to cheat on the guy I ended up with, it was real bad, embarrassing but needed because everything that happens has a reason and there is always a lesson to learn.
Anyway, the whole drama ended and I met someone else, while enjoying the euphoria of the new beginning, we had to tell each other stuffs which is quote me anywhere importan but it is really none of my partner's business how many sexual partners I have had or how many times I have had sex or who was my best.
I told him everything not leaving anything out and sometimes during the relationship duration, I sometimes felt he acted this way or that way because of one thing or the other that I told him I have done or experienced.
In all, just like Jon, I feel telling your partner all about your past sometimes come with repercussions. You should only say what makes you comfortable.
If you want to go all out, beautiful!
If you want to hold back a little, wonderful.
Olufunlola
Beautiful piece
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