Lola's Blog

Sis, sex is not giving everything you are and have to a man. Ṣe é tí gbo? Sex is just a fraction of what you have. IT'S NOT EVEN WHAT YOU ARE. A REAL man wants sex, yes. He also wants you to care. He wants consistency. He wants to be able to interact with you without feeling he is the only bright person in the room. My sister, you have more, you have more than you think you have to give to that man. To keep him interested. To keep him attracted to you. He can always get sex. Sex is cheap these days but it's not everything and that's not all you have to offer or all you are. So, don't go all around and start that cry of 'After all I did for him...yen yen yen' just because you opened your legs every time he asked you to. I stand to be corrected though.

Hello Lovers! 2020 is here o like seresere. I was reading a Nora Robert's book when I came across this sentence, 'Why worry over what is meant?' My last days of 2019 was no fun at all. I was worried, depressed, lonely and emotionally disturbed. 01-01-20 morning met me with tears and I was officially emotionally exhausted! I worry a lot. Especially when I have strategized on how things will be. I am that kind of person that likes planning. If I am traveling on Friday, I would have packed my bags since Sunday. That's me! I am careful about organization and making laid down plans. Even though I don't follow through sometimes 🙈🙈 And my inability to see through the clouds that seemed to cover every area of my life (and I mean every area) was what made me so darn upset. I guess I am not the only one in this boat right now. I am holding on to this sentence 'coz no matter how much I worry, things will happen as they are meant so why waste energy and ...

Healthy Fighting is very essential in any relationship. It helps you to understand your partner. It trashes every issues that have been covered and it restores sanity to the relationship. Dr. John Gottman's research has discovered that the magic and healthy ratio of not fighting to fighting in a relationship is 5 to 1. In other words, there must be at least 5 positive interactions for every 1 negative interaction. How you fight is also more important than how much you fight. I have come to understand that from ages past, stonewalling which is otherwise known as silent treatment has been a thing especially with women. They believe it speaks more volume than fighting and raising voices and that is very correct. When I decide to just go silent on my partner, without talking or just saying the needed things and I am not laughing at his jokes or having a gist with him like we used to, the first time that comes to his mind is, 'What could be wrong?' then 'What did I ...

Jonathan Bennet, a relationship and dating expert at Double Trust Dating once said, "Relationships don’t have to be a complete open book, there are some things that you might want to keep private because you find them embarrassing or regretful. Also, some things you can keep private because your partner just wouldn’t want to know!" And I back this up and say, it's not because you are being secretive but because it is just safer that way. It saves you so many headaches you might not forsee at the time. From experience, when you meet someone new, they want to know everything and anything about you with nothing left and if you have been head over heels in love with someone before, you will agree with me that just as they are ready to know, you are also ready to talk as e dey hot . Communication is always at the maximum at the beginning yet it is essential to know when to talk, what to say and when to keep shut. Discussing your past with your partner be it as regard...